Alexander the Great vs Diogenes: Which Kind of Power Do You Want?
Or read on to understand why this 20-minute exercise could clarify important choices in your life…
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Most people spend their careers chasing the wrong kind of power, and then wonder why success feels like a golden cage, or why they can’t afford the life they want despite all their freedom.
This story illustrates that choice:
Alexander the Great, fresh from conquering the known world, meets Diogenes: a philosopher who lives in a barrel and owns nothing.
“I am Alexander the Great,” the young conqueror declares. “I can give you anything. What do you want?”
Diogenes looks up: “Move. You’re blocking my sun.”
Alexander’s soldiers gasp. This is ultimate disrespect to absolute power.
Instead of rage, Alexander turns to his men: ”If I were not Alexander, I would wish to be Diogenes.”
That moment reveals the fundamental choice many leaders face.
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The Two Types of Power You Can Pursue
| 👑 Power as Control (Alexander): | ⛓️‍💥 Power as Freedom (Diogenes): |
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| Authority to shape major decisions | Complete autonomy over your time |
| Higher income and status potential | Minimal external obligations |
| The price: Stress, time constraints, golden handcuffs | The price: Limited resources, smaller impact, economic vulnerability |
The art is in the sequencing.
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How This Exercise Can Help You
The problem: Most people sleepwalk into pursuing the wrong kind of power at the wrong time.
The insight: When you map your Personal Power Timeline, you change vague career hopes into concrete vision.
The result: You stop building someone else’s definition of success and start creating a life that actually fits your values, energy, and goals at each stage.
One student went home, did this exercise with her husband, and discovered they had completely opposite visions for their 40s. She wanted CEO. He thought they’d sail around the world. They’d been married for years and never discussed it.
Better to discover that now than in divorce court.
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What You’ll Get in This Exercise
đź“Š Your Personal Power Timeline (20 minutes)
- Visual framework to map your ideal power balance across decades
- Four research-backed patterns from hundreds of executives
- Step-by-step process to align your career with your actual goals
🧠Deep Insight Questions
- Trade-off tolerance assessment
- Values clarification process
- Reality check against current trajectory
- Capability audit for your next phase
🎯 Action Planning Framework
- This week, this quarter, this year decision guides
- Specific steps to align your current life with your timeline
- Tools to prevent future misalignment
đź’‘ Couples Version (45 minutes total)
- Three-timeline approach to discover if you’re planning the same future
- Structured conversation guide to surface hidden assumptions
- Four common couple patterns and how to navigate them
The Four Power Patterns
After guiding many leaders through this exercise, four distinct patterns emerge:
”The Sprint & Coast”: Maximum control until 40-45, then freedom
- Example: Investment banker → early retirement
”The Explorer’s Path”: Freedom first, control later
- Example: Travel blogger → late-blooming executive
”Life as Seasons”: Alternating between control and freedom phases
- Example: Consultant → Executive → Entrepreneur → Advisor
”The Steady Climb”: Consistent balance throughout life
- Example: Mid-level manager maintaining work-life balance
Which pattern fits your natural approach? The exercise helps you discover your authentic path—so you stop fighting against your instincts and start leveraging them.
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Why This Works Better Than Generic Life Planning
Most career advice: “Climb the ladder. Get more control. Always say yes to promotions.”
The Power Timeline approach: “Build the exact type of influence that aligns with your values, energy, and life goals at each stage.”
The insight: Knowing which type of power you want when helps you make strategic decisions and not just react, or realize too late that you sleepwalked into a life and career that isn't what you actually wanted.
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Perfect For Couples: The Conversation That Can Align Your Future
The three-timeline approach reveals:
- What you want (your individual timeline)
- What you think they want (your assumptions)
- What you could build together (your aligned future)
Common couple patterns:
- “The Tag Team”: Alternate who pursues each power type
- “The Sprint Together”: Both chase control, then freedom together
- “The Complement”: One stays control-focused, one freedom-focused
Many couples discover they’ve been making completely different assumptions about their shared future. This exercise surfaces those differences before they become deal-breakers.
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Download Your Complete Exercise
Ready to map your ideal power trajectory?
What you’ll get:
- Complete exercise guide with all worksheets
- Alexander and Diogenes story with modern applications
- Four power patterns with examples
- Deep insight questions and action planning
- Couples version with conversation guide
- Next steps for solo exercisers and couples
Time required: 20 minutes solo | 45 minutes with partner
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From The Quiet Power Playbook
This exercise comes from The Quiet Power Playbook: a newsletter for kind leaders who want promotions, not politics.
If you’ve ever felt stuck choosing between “playing the game” and “staying invisible,” you’ll love this weekly dose of research-backed insight.